What's with Muslim men today eh?
Why do most think Islam=Nabi Muhammad S.A.W?
So 2b on the right track, they must do EVERYTHING that Rasulullah did?! Even if that meant doing or following it blindly!!
Why do most think that their deen (religion) will only be complete if they've filled their quota of 4 wives (like Rasulullah)? Harlow..Rasulullah didn't marry 4 for the fun of it ok!! If it was out of lust, he wld have married virgins or unmarried gorgeous women!
In general, polygamy is permitted in Islam only so that women/children who may be subjected to abuse or destitution can be protected. That too if those men who wants to marry the women can afford to be fair to each families, financially or otherwise. Correct me if I'm wrong, but at least that's what I've learnt since my teenaged years. If nothing of that sort, then if for the sake of marrying another woman, the most basic criteria set
a) is CHRONICALLY ill;
b) cannot have children.
Fair enough.
So? I fail to see the logic/reason behind all those royal figures in M'sia (for instance) marrying gorgeous celebrities! Those celebrities are rich enough to fend for themselves...and they also dont have orphaned children that needs protection!!
Oookaaay...I'm going overboard eh? The only reason for this post is bcoz 3 yrs ago, I learnt that a close family friend - Suraiya - whom I've not met but knows of her existence from my parents, is being ill-treated by her hubby since she got married (her hubby & MIL even disallowed her from meeting or being in contact wif her parents!). To make things worse, the discovery was a shock bcoz Suraiya is actually the SIL of this chap I was seeing, but jodoh tak panjang (as usual the guy kept going MIA & I'm too mature for such childish games!). Of coz, when I discovered that truth abt the household (that Suraiya's MIL is not a gd person, her hubby is a wife-beater), I sujud syukur & thanked Allah for saving me. Then, just now, after ngaji, Maslin's mom opened topic with Ustazah abt a polygamy marriage she "rewang" at over the wkend. Somehow, as her story went on, I begin to suspect something & after some probing, I discovered that the groom was actually Suraiya's hubby! Son of a bitch!! I am really shattered. How dare he! Suraiya must be under some spell to actually consent the marriage! She loves the husband too much to report him! *sigh*
With this discovery, suddenly I find each one of my pasts haunting me. Yesterday (Mon), I was chatting with Tehzeeb & a topic abt Suraiya & hubby came abt which led to another emotionally-abused-wife story which led to the discovery that person is actually my best fren in Pri Sch - Nadia - whom I've lost touch wif since we entered Sec Sch. To confirm if it's the same Nadia, I scanned her photo from my Pri Sch autograph bk & showed Tehzeeb. After that, I felt so nostalgic abt reading the autograph bk that I opened my Sec Sch's autograph bk...only to stumble upon the photo of my 1st ever guy fren of 7 yrs. I shall not get into the details of my beautiful friendship with him as it'll only make me remorseful of how stupid & arrogant of me to reject Allah's gift for me 10 yrs ago! Maybe Allah has not forgiven me yet for that mistake I made. Just maybe. But it was nice recollecting all the gd memories with him. Oh, btw, I discovered that he is related to Tehzeeb!
Hmmm...now...this world is getting scarily too small for me & Tehzeeb. It's like everything that happened in our lives are interwined with each other! As though we were meant to save each other from destruction!! If only we knew each other much earlier...that'll be fun...Perhaps today we'd go "cuci mata" together. Hehe.
6 comments:
DATE: 12/13/2006 04:10:34 PM
I 2nd every word you said on polygamy.
May Allah bless these emotionally abused women and grant them the strength and wisdom to cope with their problems.
DATE: 12/14/2006 02:19:19 AM
I agree babe. I understand polygamy, but I cannot accept it if you marry another wife for anything else other than the reasons you stated. I was recently so disappointed with Aa Gym's actions as well. And if you realise, the only people who are happy about it are men, and they say this is better than having affairs, so we better accept it. How can anyone say that? These men should give a better reasoning.
DATE: 12/14/2006 05:44:27 AM
Ya boy!! I was quite worried that I was gonna get adverse comments with this post. But I just had to let it out...thank God I did.
Yeah, guess Rostina cld be right...the only one happy abt it are men...so perhaps, if I've a man reading this, then I'd probably get adverse comments.
Can u imagine a men marrying another woman bcoz the woman is ill...with diabetes. But it's just diabetes! She can still function rite?! It's not like she has her limbs amputated!!! Lame excuse!
DATE: 12/14/2006 07:41:07 AM
yeah bu.. how i wish i knew u earlier... i wud love to cuci mata with u.. kekeke
btw one of the main reason tat always scares me abt being married is feeling insecure tat there might be a chance of my husband marrying another woman. :s
DATE: 12/15/2006 12:39:29 AM
That chance will always be there... every woman lives with that fear. I don't think I can cope with polygamy, regardless of the reason, cos I will always wonder if my husband is just obligated to be with me, and if he is having a better time with his other wife....while I am just someone he has to put up with. That will be a nightmare, and I'd rather be alone.
DATE: 12/15/2006 05:17:04 AM
U watch Vivah, Ros? That's a perfect example of unconditional love. If all guys can be like Prem (Shahid in Vivah), polygamy will be eradicated from the dictionary! I mean c'mon, u're not even married to that woman, u can back out now that she's gotten 3rd degree burns on her whole body (interesting that her face is the only part that was saved from the fire! Hehe). But I guess, he looked at it from the pt of view of "what if the mishap happened after marriage, wld I leave my wife?". So there u go, I still don't but y a man needs another wife when his wife has no such imperfections!
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